Here’s a quick thought about April’s PXC Book Club book, Unfiltered:No Shame, No Regrets, Just Me, by Lily Collins. Just for starters, I was not expecting that! I came into the book thinking it would be something like Anna Kendrick’s Scrappy Little Nobody: kinda light, really fun, and with some cool personal stories. Boy was I in for a surprise. This memoir was heavyyyyyyy:
Eating disorders, abusive boyfriends, major daddy issues. (Remember her father is musician, Phil Collins).
I applaud that Collins shared her story and struggles so transparently, so “unfiltered,”…ohhhh now I get it!
Throughout the book, I recognized lingo and POVs that I’ve learned from my therapist and many self-improvement books: loving yourself, forgiveness, accepting imperfection, and ways to move forward after trauma. I’m glad that another young woman, and one in the public eye, had the courage to reveal her deepest pains so openly. Many of the feelings surrounding self-esteem and father/daughter relationships, I greatly related to. In fact, Lily helped me realize some emotional bad habits that I also exhibited when it came to my own father. She wrote a powerful and in-depth emotionally validating letter to her father (and basically all fathers with estranged daughters) which really summarized how I felt and articulated in such a clear way and which encompasses my experiences and feelings.
As for her struggles with eating disorders, my heart went out to her. Thankfully I’ve never experienced anything close to those types of body issues. Over the years I have known people with a variety of eating disorders and while I still don’t understand, I have compassion for their wounded spirit. I’m sure many readers felt comfort knowing someone who is a celebrity and aware of the extreme social and ridiculous expectations put on especially by the media, still struggles with body acceptance and imperfections.
I’m glad that she finds herself in a much better place all around. Her career is really taking off, her love life is filled with genuine love and care, and her view on food is that of fuel and strength. This memoir was a gentle reminder that we all have silent struggles and that each day we’re closer and closer to passing through them.
Lily Collins, thank you for letting us learn about you. I know I was touched by your sincerity and honesty. I’m sure many more readers were impacted by your stories as well.
PXC Book Club Book List
March: “Scrappy Little Noboy,” Anna Kendrick http://simonandschusterpublishing.com/scrappy-little-nobody/
April: “Unfiltered-No Shame, No Regrets, Just Me,” Lily Collins https://www.harpercollins.com/9780062473035/unfiltered
May: “The Total Me-Tox: How to Ditch Your Diet, Move Your Body, & Love Your Life (On Your Own Terms”): Beth Behrs https://www.hachettebookgroup.com/titles/beth-behrs/the-total-me-tox/9781602863088/