Do chocolates really matter?
Valentine’s Day is tomorrow and that question has tickled my mind a few times this month. Valentine’s Day: is it one of the longest running marketing campaigns that provokes gimmicks to buy chocolates, cards, and roses, or is it a holiday totally devoted to couples to make the extra effort that show they truly love each other?
I’ve never been bothered by the commercialization of the holiday, so I either am the target market to the “T” or I just think it’s a nice reminder to show extra affection.
Now, money is tight and I’m not demanding a fancy dinner at a candlelight table, or a dozen roses--or any roses, actually. A cute card, homemade or purchased, would be nice. Chocolate isn’t necessary, and depending on my mood, if I’m attempting a sugar detox, it’s refused; or if I’m indulging my chocolate craving, it’s greatly appreciated.
My boyfriend and I have always done something for V-day but it’s always within our financial means and lighthearted. We’ve gone to out to dinner, movies, made homemade cards and gifts for each other and shared some special time together ;)
I won’t be devastated that we’ll be thoughtful on a budget. In fact, I think that this creates an opportunity for creative and truly personal ideas.
Sure, the standby of roses, chocolates, and jewelry are appreciated but not an new idea. Maybe you put a lot of time and effort into saving for jewelry—or maybe someone makes a quick stop before going home…
In my experience I enjoy the gifts that I know were thought about for a long time. Cody is quite the poet and I love when I’m moved to tears reading the words that he wrote for me. I still get emotional when I read my old cards, love letters and poems. To me that’s much more memorable than a fancy dinner (although we still talk about our V-Day dinner at a Boston Thai restaurant).
One year I made him coasters—but they were really special. My friend told me about the craft she found on Pinterest. Typically you paste beer box logos to the tile to make the coaster. Instead I printed maps of special places that related to our relationship: where we met, our first date, first kiss, etc.
This year think of something thoughtful. It could be an elaborate grand gesture or it could be something sweet and simple.But (and this is for you too ladies--we are as much the gift giver as we are the gift receiver) in my opinion you should do something. Even if you and your partner agree that it’s silly and roll your eyes at the thought of cupid’s arrow. Do something regardless…
I have a friend (really it’s not me, it’s a friend) who didn’t make a big deal about the 14th but once the day came and she didn’t get any sign of extra affection she was hurt and realized that it did matter to her.
Showing thoughtfulness and affections shouldn’t be limited to just February 14th, in fact that’s not healthy at all. A note slipped in the lunch bag or flowers just because, surprise concert tickets, and an impromptu back rub are little ways you create intimacy and show your partner you love and care for them. But on this special day devoted to lovers, just have some fun and enjoy some special time with your partner!
Happy Valentine’s Day!