Since I was a young girl, my mother has been a breathing jar full of knowledge. I could tell her my predicament and as if were pulling the answer out of a jar, she’d suggest a remedy. Over the years I began to notice a pattern, and to this day, I get mildly sore when I realize my issue can be fixed with one of her 3 most common cures:
1. Prioritize: whether it’s cleaning my messy room or applying to colleges, she told me to prioritize, (the best way to clean a room is always to start by making the bed—it immediately feels less overwhelming).
When it comes to writing or even creating this website, first, I needed to find my starting place. Typically it’s a basic idea and from there I slowly expand (character, scene, or plot concept).
As I learned as her caregiver, the concept of prioritizing is super important. Just the other day I made my own makeshift “white board.” I have a large roll of butcher’s paper (for mapping out my screenplays) and I taped the paper to the wall. Then I used Post It notes with all the important categories of paperwork we must fill out. Literally this process took 15 minutes and I felt the stress ease. I managed to see all that I had to work with and then I organized the time sensitive stuff by most importance. It’s easy to start small and take one thing at a time. Which brings me to step 2.
2. One Step at a Time: I tend to think largely—big dreams, big scale, big picture. I see way into my ideal future...without ever knowing the first step to take the reach that glorified destination. For example, this company, I can envision what it will be like in 10 years but that success will not come overnight. It takes time: many tiny steps, ideas, failed attempts, and surprising new directions. How do I know this? I’ve experienced the reality version of my breezy and imaginary success! If you take one step at a time and do something—even teeny or tiny, you will eventually get to your end result. Once foot is comprised of 12 tiny inches, but it’s still one foot! You’re still collecting, still achieving your goal, just day by day until one day you’ve reached the last inch. I still remind myself not to fret, because you (I, we) will get there!
Again, with all the stuff that has been happening I have to remind myself that every little bit helps. Whether it’s work for my mom, or the smallest amount of creative writing for me, I can tackle my task, little by little.
This is truly the hardest part for me. I am a Taurus...apparently we have patience, (but I don’t think I’ve ever had patience!) I’m a typical raging bull haha! I want things done immediately, and especially in this society with technology zooming answers at us in a moment, waiting seems so backwards.
Just last week I was talking with a friend, and she told me such a simple truth: Time Takes Time! Time to heal, time to recover, time to make your dreams come true. Give it time and allow yourself to work through the “time.” UGH that can be so frustrating! I get it. But think of it this way; it takes a lot of the pressure off yourself. I can only do so much. I can only prioritize, take one step at a time, and have the patience for myself and let the universe do the rest!
Trust me, rarely am I sitting at home twiddling my thumbs...in fact I would LOVE to do that, especially if my nails are painted! But mostly I’m on the go--I did learn though that everyone needs to mellow out, and have some down time, especially under high stress. So when I feel like doing nothing-- I enjoy doing nothing. I don’t need to beat myself up for not writing an article or writing my screenplay. Sometimes you really do need to CHILL OUT!!!
So, once again my Mom is a badass and has always been so freaking smart. She taught me lots of valuable things, however after 20-odd years of hearing this on a daily basis, I’m finally beginning to see how simple things can be...with 1,2 3!
Stay positive Pixie Chicks :)